The internet has this way of making you feel like you’re not doing enough. Like you’re not busy enough, successful enough, attractive enough, competitive enough, resourceful enough, intelligent enough, enough, enough, enough.
I wish I were immune to the effects of it but I fall prey sometimes too. I look at my life and I am proud of what I have. I have worked hard to have the life I live, but I have also been very fortunate. I am grateful. I am so grateful.
But, even still, sometimes I scroll through Facebook or Instagram and I get that little ping of, “wow, look at them, look at what they have going on, wow, too bad they’re more successful than you’ll ever be, too bad you’re messing up your whole life“.
I hate that. I hate doubting myself, my abilities, but most importantly my path, just because I see other people doing well. This comparison really is a killer of contentment. But the internet makes it so, so easy to kill our joy and peace.
If you find yourself struggling to have peace in this place of constant comparisons, I have a few tips for you:
1. Limit your time online/on these apps. Existing online is no way to exist. Life is in the LIVING; not the liking, commenting, and subscribing.
2. Practice mindfulness. There are some great apps out there to help you begin your meditation and mindfulness journey. I highly recommend checking them out. (I use The Calm App and have for just over a year. It’s been amazing for me.)
3. Do a gratitude activity. Literally sit down and make a list of all you’re grateful for. It helps put things back into perspective. Take stock of your blessings and of your success stories.
4. Consider if you really are where you want to be. And if you aren’t, contemplate what you need to do next to get to where you want to be. But, focus on just the next step. Just that one.
When I recalibrate my mind through the exercises above, I release self-judgment, reject Imposter Syndrome, and I realign myself with my purpose and calling. Removing myself from the appearances of those around me helps me refocus on the truth right in front of me: I am where I am supposed to be right at this moment and I am enough.
Be present. Be where you are. And embrace your enough-ness. I’m right there with you.